ITNA SANNATA KYON HAI BHAI?

DAY 15/30/15/JUNE/2020

I was watching “Sholay”, an epic movie in Bollywood history.

I don't remember the count of how many times I would have watched

this movie and I am sure it's the same with most of you.

The movie progressed and reached the scene where the popular

dialogue which is very commonly used in many walks of life,

“Itna sannatta kyon hai bhai?” The scene further reaches the

point where the Imam sahab tries to give an eye opening message

to the villagers. Imam sahab tells the villagers that there is no

bigger burden than facing the death of your own child.    

This caught my attention and I went on my thought roller coaster.

If you have to think about it, how true it is.

How heart wrenching it would be for the parents to bear the loss

of someone who has come through them and is a part of them.

How would it be affecting their psychology after the loss?

What would they be going through? It's like you spend a lifetime

in building your own house and when you have barely started

rejoicing the place and cherishing your efforts, there is a

sudden earthquake that reduces the entire effort into a big

pile of rubble. I wonder how they would be standing on their

feet post such traumatic events.

That also made me think about the recent horrifying suicide

case of Sushant Singh Rajput. I mean what would be his father

going through right now. You see your child on the progress

path and see him bagging so many achievements, awards, recognition.

He  would be saying to himself that his efforts have fructified

and would be proudly moving around telling the world that he is my son.

And one fine day suddenly this news broke through. The father

would be experiencing deathlike pain himself and what would be

his motivation to live?

Another sector of parents that occurred to me are the parents

of the defense personnel. They would be dreading every message,

every call coming from the defense department hoping to hear

their child on the other side. How would be their heartbeat in

those milliseconds before they hear the voice from the other side?

It's really important to acknowledge that these parents would be

turning their heart into metal, the day their child joins the defense

services. You spend a lifetime to build, nurture, care and then

just give it all away, all for the nation. What a sacrifice!

I cannot even dread to think about a day without my child.

The very idea of thinking itself sends chills down my spine.

My heart goes out to all such parents who have been under such

everlasting burden. Some succumb, some are dragging themselves

through and some have regained some strength and are back on their

own feet but definitely missing that support that they would have

had in their olden times.

© - Rahul Shinde 15/JUN/2020